Even the most experienced sugar babys feel embarrassed or uncomfortable when it comes to talking about an agreement with a POT, in various comments there are sugar babies who ask. What and how much should I order?
The first thing to be clear about is that a relationship of this type is not a transactional relationship. This means that it involves much more than a mere one-night stand. Therefore you have to understand and value all aspects of your sugar daddy (Humor, feeling etc …).
In the agreements it is also possible to talk about travel, gifts and other benefits. There are agreements of all kinds, in some it is more important that your POT offers you experiences such as expensive trips and gifts.
Here are 10 tips on how to talk about what a sugar daddy can offer you. Each person is a world so only you know what motivates you. Even so, if you are a sugarbaby and you are clear about what you want or want to tell us about your experience, you can leave a comment at the end of the post.
1-. Do not hesitate to ask
The most important step in getting what you want is asking for it . We all know that, but hey, it can be very awkward to talk about what you want to receive from your relationship. If the thought of talking about it makes you uncomfortable, take the time to get comfortable in your conversations with your POT.
It’s important that you don’t let it take too long to waste your time. Try to talk a bit about everything before asking the question or explaining what you want. But do not have more than one date or are talking with him too long on the phone or Telegram before you know what he can offer you.
2-. Before ordering, you have to impress.
And we do not mean that you send your best photos, but that you show your social charms for that you have to learn to distinguish yourself as a sugar baby . Each sugarbaby has its charms, sympathy, sweetness, culture … show your worth before ordering. It is also very important to be able to impress having a good profile with acceptable photos . A real SD, if he likes you, will quickly offer you a deal. If he brings up the subject before you, he is really interested in you.
Also, do not close yourself to having a first date to meet without having an agreement in between, but before going on that date, try to find out what their real intentions are.
3-. A good deal must have more
Keep in mind that a good agreement does not always have to do with giving you a lot. Think about how many times he will want to meet you, if he really is a nice person and if he brings you more things.
When you talk to a POT, let them know that you are more interested in a suitable arrangement that you are comfortable with than in something as simple as having your purse filled. This will also send another message to your POT, and that is that not only can you win by filling your wallet. This will also make it easier to set limits in the relationship and negotiate everything else.
Sometimes he can also give you gifts, trips etc … Think about your ideal agreement before speaking.
4-. Talking it on the phone is not a bad idea
If you still don’t feel comfortable asking for what you want, using a phone call or Telegram to get an idea of what you can get and to show him what you can offer is a good idea.
Still, we believe that face-to-face things where you can make eye contact to ask for what you want can pay off a lot more than messaging.
Another good idea is to make a video call to talk in general and also about this topic. In a video call you can see his expressions and yours and you can connect more with him. Phone calls are a good way to protect yourself as a sugarbaby and detect salt daddys or fakes.
5-. Find out what options it offers you
He may have his options about what he is looking for in the relationship. Before you start talking about it, you should think about how often you would like to have the benefits you need, whether weekly, monthly or by appointment. It is important that you know what your options are so that you can explain them clearly.
6-. How much does a sugar baby charge?
Sugar Daddies come from various professions and levels. Before talking about what you need, do your part by researching what its range might be. You can find out what is his profession and what is his standard of living, if he has children and a wife to support, if he is an employee or businessman, the type of house in which he lives.
A sugar baby receives benefits based on an estimate he makes. Starting from a minimum, the sugar baby must weigh whether there is feeling.
Based on this you can make an estimate of how much approximately it can offer you. In addition, you can also rule out with this those that promise an allocation range and for the circumstances that it describes would not be able to pay.
On the other hand, it is important that you distrust people who quickly offer you x for “spending the night.” Sugar dating is not this, and those who offer you something like this are usually looking for something else instead of a sugar dating relationship.
So what is there to keep in mind?
To know what you should order, you must take into account the following:
- Dating: A sugar daddy who wants to go out to dinner from time to time is not the same as one who wants to travel with you.
- Exclusivity: If you ask for exclusivity, there should be something that motivates you.
- Contacts: Some will ask you to call and talk, and this adds up.
- Other advantages : If you are going to buy clothes, whims or pay for books, you can lower the rank a bit.
- Feeling: If there is feeling, perhaps the advantages you get from this relationship may be less.
7-. Try not to bring up the subject
A genuine and interested sugar daddy will generally bring up the subject by asking what you want. The easiest way to do this is to address the issue indirectly by asking if you have had prior agreements. Ask them how it went, what were the terms, how was the relationship …
If you haven’t had prior arrangements, keep in mind that people are more inclined to answer an awkward question after being asked a more comfortable series of questions, so start the discussion by asking your POT questions like: an ideal deal for you? “” How often would you like us to meet? ” Keep asking questions about the deal and then ask what advantages you would be comfortable with.
If it is too low, refute with something like “Oh, I was thinking more about …”. Do not discount what you think is fair, ask for what is right for you.
8-. Receive what corresponds to you
It is a key point that all sugar babies must remember at all times: Reaching an agreement is not asking for a handout. You are negotiating for a series of things that you contribute.
And sugar daddies can be many things, but they are not stupid. Your sugar daddy does not give you an allowance because he is a kind being who has come on his white horse to make you your princess. He is getting something in return and he knows it. He is reciprocated and you make him feel good and make him happy.
Some may express shock or surprise when you state your needs. Some will even ask what you plan to do, as if you need to justify yourself. Do not justify why you ask what you ask, actually that is your business.
Although sometimes relationships in sugar dating have progressed to become a true love, keep in mind that at first it should be like this: He gives you a series of advantages for your time and your service.
9-. You must be prepared to turn the page
Some sugar babys may not agree with us in this case, but we have this rule: if a POT does not agree with your requests (which is reasonable and within what we know is possible with their income range) , politely finish dinner and cross it off the POT list.
In our experience, men who know the value of having a sugar baby are willing to do whatever it takes for it. They know you’re worth it. They want what you have to offer. And like companies that want to recruit the best talent, these sugar daddies are prepared to give you what you are asking for.
These men are looking for long-term relationships because they already know it is worth it. We do not recommend ever begging or trying to convince him to give you what you want. If he doesn’t realize that you are worth it, he won’t be a great mentor anyway.
And if you settle for less than you want, you won’t be happy enough to keep him happy. It is a two-way street. Their needs must be met.
At the same time, sometimes you will come across a POT with which you have great dynamics… but they don’t earn enough to give you the ideal amount.
In those cases, we would say: go with the one you like, even if what they offer you is something less than ideal . Sugar dating should be an agreement in which you feel comfortable is more important than having a great series of advantages. You can also read: Lessons and secrets from 5 experienced Sugarbabes