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The beginning of any potential sugar dating relationship is an emotional but delicate time. Knowing how to take advantage of these first moments is essential for the success of a sugar baby. Even if you are already an experienced girl, you should remember these tips, sometimes when we are already immersed in this world and begin to receive the first rewards we think we already know everything.
Here are 5 common mistakes sugarbaby candidates make . Study them calmly and look for a long-lasting and profitable relationship.
1. Give before receiving
This is #1 on this list for a reason – it’s a common trap and often a reason why many girls quit sugar dating. Many sugar babies start texting and calling a potential sugar daddy candidate and almost immediately… they start giving him what he wants. Hoping to strike a deal with this POT.
They are there for him, answer his phone calls, and let him talk as much as he wants. They prepare and dress up to meet him every time he asks to see her. This is a big mistake.
Knowing what your POT needs is important and it never hurts to talk about it, but this doesn’t mean having endless appointments or calls. You should only give your time to the SDs with whom you already have an agreement.
A POT is not your sugar daddy. You don’t owe him anything. He’s just another man you meet before you strike a deal. And until you strike a real deal, you shouldn’t make yourself too available. You should politely cut off phone conversations without stretching them out too long. Decline frequent dates without payment. Your time isn’t free. Don’t make him think it is.
Finally, you need to find out what he wants and needs and tell him what you need. But don’t give it to him until there’s a deal and he shows he’ll stick to it.
2. Put all your attention on a single POT
This is a very common but avoidable mistake, it is very important not to put all your eggs in one basket. Get a wide network of potential sugar daddies, make sure you get in touch and get to know them. Think of the first few meetings like a job interview, you may or may not get caught up, you may or may not be interested. You must persevere until you find the one who can give you what you need.
No matter how promising a date seems, don’t give up your search and keep several options until you find the right one. Keep your profile active, try to stand out and differentiate yourself from other sugar babies and build up a “good portfolio of POTs” .
3. Not knowing when to break up with a potential sugar daddy
If you’ve been on several dates with a potential candidate who isn’t giving you what you want, it’s time to break up. It’s important to know how not to give your POT false hope and to know how to let go . In our experience, if a potential candidate doesn’t offer you a second date, they probably won’t do it for a third.
He may be interested in you, certainly enough to continue getting value from you without giving anything back, but he’s not interested enough to make a deal.
The only time you should keep these men around is if they offer you mentoring, social gatherings, or other perks. As a sugar baby, sometimes it’s worth more to know a good mentor who can introduce you to people than other perks. However, if there’s a deal, no matter how much he teaches you, if he breaks it, it’s best not to continue.
4. Without defining your terms
The beginning of the relationship is a very important time to define the terms and benefits to offer and ask for. This is something that should be done from the beginning. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that everything will work out over time or that you will start setting the terms once the relationship is underway.
Learning some negotiation techniques to reach an agreement with your POT can be an advantage. Don’t start a relationship even if it gives you other types of advantages if it doesn’t meet your needs, in other words, if it doesn’t give you what you’re looking for, it’s better not to continue. Take into account all the details of what he or she asks you for, for example, if he or she asks you to travel, ask him or her about the weather, the advantages he or she will offer you, and all the details.
Bottom line: Know what your terms are, stick to them, and make sure he sticks to them before you start the relationship.
5. Don’t make lowball offers
This is the one mistake we want all sugar babies to avoid. Because it’s absurd. And it’s easily avoidable: We’ve said it before and we’ve said it again: The benefits your SD offers you are not gifts. You’re simply being compensated for the benefits you offer.
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you think is a fair deal. Don’t think it’s greedy or selfish to ask for what’s right for you. Most sugar daddies are businessmen. They will give you less than they know you’re worth… if you let them, don’t blame them, it’s implicit in the DNA of a good negotiator, for many, their daily life is about getting the most out of the least amount of money.
However, it is also possible that a haggler who insists too much or offers you too little is a false sugar daddy, in negotiations it is when it is easier to unmask one,
That’s business. When a guy asks you what you’d like to receive, he’s also assessing your worth. Make sure you establish your worth and are clear about what you want. Always ask if he’s willing or able to offer you what you’re asking for.
